I’m not going to take it!


You may give it, my husband may give it, the driver in front of me may give it, but I’m not taking it anymore. I will not take offense.

I learned this in an adult Sunday School class many years ago. Brad Kibbel is now basking in glory and no longer battles such things, but I often recall his words. He said that people will give offense, but it’s my decision whether or not to take offense — and I’ve decided that I’m not going to take it.

I wish I could remember what we were studying the morning those words were engraved on my heart. I also wish I could report that I have consistently lived by them. What I can say is that they express one of my life’s ambitions.

Solomon, the wisest of the wise, wrote, “He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends” (Proverbs 17:9). How I regret the times I did take offense—and then talked about it. No good can ever come from that. Two chapters later (19:11), Solomon says that it is our glory to overlook an offense.

I invite you to join me in applying the words of these two wise men, Brad and Solomon:

Though offense is given, don’t take it! Overlook it instead… and be glorious.

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7 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Ellen Pelliccio
    Sep 21, 2016 @ 20:14:45

    I am joining you. I’m want to be an “overlooker”! Thanks for this Barbara.



  2. BarbaraRuglio
    Sep 21, 2016 @ 21:59:54

    This was for me! I just told the story again recently, for what the 147th time?? About how I had done so much for him but he had to pick on that one minor mistake! Ungrateful, petty, mean-spirited… shut up shut up shut up! He is not the monster. It is i who have become one with my bitterness! He probably never meant it the way I took it BUT even if he did, I did not have to take it, nurse it, repeat it, let it eat me. NO I don’t have to take it or keep it. I can leave it at the foot of the cross. Thank you, God bless you, this has blessed me!



  3. thelamb777
    Sep 21, 2016 @ 22:14:11

    Thanks, Barbara. That is an excellent word.

    Liked by 1 person


  4. Carrie Ann Wylie
    Sep 27, 2016 @ 13:43:42

    Yes, I agree. I need to practice this more. Thank you!



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