A Love that’s More than Emotion


Emotional love is lopsided. For instance, a friend recently said he wouldn’t go to rehab because he loved his wife too much. Wouldn’t love propel a person to go to rehab?

How about this? “I love you so much, I want to be with you all the time.” The unspoken sentiment being, “Don’t go anywhere without me.”

Or the husband who says, “I’m so thankful God gave you to me as my helper,” but means, “Put your personal desires on the back burner because I need you.”

No matter what feeling is involved, this is distorted love,
a twisted version of its true meaning. These behaviors don’t line up with the love described in the Bible.

Because we hear it so often, it’s easy to gloss over I Corinthians 13, but let’s pause a few minutes on this Valentine’s Day to think about what love actually is.

Love is patient — with you and all your foibles, but not with your sin or abuse.

Love is kind — but there are times when tough love is the kindness you need.

Love doesn’t envy — it roots for you when you do well and encourages you to go further.

Love doesn’t boast or act proudly — it is humble, thankful, reasonable.

Love isn’t rude — it treats you with respect.

Love isn’t self-seeking — it defers to you, promotes you, blesses you.

Love is not easily angered — with shortcomings or annoyances, but when it comes to sin, reread patient and kind.

Love keeps no record of wrongs — it forgives and has a big eraser.

Love doesn’t delight in evil — it doesn’t make excuses but works to overcome evil, personally and in others. What it does delight in is truth & righteousness.

Love protects — a protector will be inconvenienced without conplaint and even put himself in danger for the sake of the one he loves.

Love trusts — it doesn’t have to agree with you, but will trust you enough to let you try — and is there to help with the clean-up if things don’t work out.

Love hopes — it doesn’t get discouraged with your quirks, failures or lack of progress; it doesn’t give up on you or your dreams.

Love perseveres — it just keeps going— you know, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness & in health, in job loss or foreclosure, in debilitating disease or extra pounds, through rebellious kids or no kids, through in-law issues or legal issues, through bad habits and embarrassing moments — till death do us part.

This is way short of what I Corinthians 13 says about love, but I promised brevity. Please comment with an aspect of love that is precious to you.

Graphic compliments of pintrest.com/stickmancliff

3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Ellen
    Feb 14, 2017 @ 18:58:36

    Love is an action not an on-again-off-again feeling.

    Thanks Barbara. I’m your faithful fan.



  2. Janet Higby DeHoog
    Feb 15, 2017 @ 13:04:26

    Love is a commitment. It doesn’t say, well, you’re too much trouble. It doesn’t say, I’m tired of forgiving you. It keeps on keeping on, because that’s how God is with us. He loves us past our imperfections, He loved us while we were still sinners.



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