Taking Memories

About Memories #4

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I thought I was finished with the topic of memories, but today they are barraging me. I’m writing this on my daughter’s birthday (January 22). Stacey would be 44 today, but she died 14 years ago and all we have are memories. So, yes, I’ll take the memories. There are no upcoming dates on the calendar, no random phone calls (for which she was famous), no plans for a party (another thing she was famous for)—just memories that swirl with bittersweet remembrances. Sweet for the joy her life created, bitter for the helpless sorrow of missing her.

The day poses a dilemma—try to remember or try to forget? I’m guessing you also have a significant date or two.

I’m all for remembering. Tears will come and that’s okay, they’ll pass. But the sweetness will remain—the lingering fragrance of a life loved, the echoes of laughter, the pleasure of having shared life. And it’s not over. God just hit the pause button—we will again walk, talk and laugh together, for all eternity.

So, if you’ve lost someone special, I suggest you take hold of your memories. Savor the sweetness and release the bitter. Recognize that the person you loved and lost enriched your life and made you who you are today.

This short visit was not an incident: it was a benediction… The remembrances, the influence, the associations remain… And if God recalls the child He lent, then let us thank Him for the loan, and consider that what made that child the messenger of God—its purity, modesty, trustfulness, gladness—has passed into our soul. The Potter’s Wheel (1904), Ian Maclaren

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18

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  1. Debbie Grant
    Jan 24, 2019 @ 13:02:40

    Heartfelt blog. Ingrid gave me a plaque after I lost my dad which reads: When someone you loved becomes a memory the memory becomes a treasure. If you ever want to hear a song that speaks to the loss of a loved one your are missing play Kathy Troccoli Goodbye for Now. Love you so very much.

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  2. Diane Houtsms
    Jan 24, 2019 @ 19:40:50

    Thank you for sharing your tender heart and perspective, Barb on such the pause button of life. Stacey Joy was wonderfully, rightly named. The memories that stick with me are of her as a toddler – what a joyful cutie she was! Much love to you🤗

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